73 :: Guy-Q + Dating + Choosing the Right Mate with Kongit Farrell

Episode Description

Description:
Kongit Farrell is a Goddess Powerhouse, no two ways about it (just take a look at her bio!!) She’s been taking a stand to empower her clients and community to form and sustain healthy, empowered relationships with ourselves and each other.On this episode Kongit and I go deep into clarifying the type of relationships we want, doing the work we need to do in order to attract and sustain those relationships and fine tuning our ‘Guy-Q’ so that we are clear about and courageous enough to say yes to what works and no to what doesn’t.

If you’re interested in the world of dating, relationship and ‘Guy-Q,’ allowing others (and ourselves) to be where we are in our relating while being powerful to either embrace or walk away from a situation that doesn’t serve us, then this episode is for you!

There are some juicy tips so tune in for my conversation with Kongit Farrell on Ignite Intimacy!

Kongit Farrell – BIO

Kongit Farrell is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, her therapeutic approach rooted in CBT, Narrative and Solution-Focused methodologies. She is an EMDR therapist and is completing advanced course work in Sex Therapy at The Buehler Institute of Orange County. Kongit is the Founder of the Inspired Journey Counseling Center in Downtown Los Angeles. and  has been featured in The Los Angeles Times, The Los Angeles Sentinel, University of Southern California’s magazine “The Daily Trojan” and Pepperdine University’s Magazine “Colleague”.

 

Links: 

Website
Instagram + Twitter: @KongitFarrell
Facebook
Email: Kongit@KongitFarrell.com

Resources:
Sex, Time, and Power: How Women’s Sexuality Shaped Human Evolution – by Leonard Shlain

29 :: Sexual Sovereignty with Saida Désilets

Episode Description Saida Désilets’ journey is one that flowed from erotic innocence, through near-deadly sexual trauma, to healing. Her experiences are a testament to the fact that the right direction is not always the easy one. Despite facing extreme challenges in life, Saida has always chosen to embrace her wounds and use them to lead her on her path of synchronicity and discovery. Saida’s jade egg practice and research on the psychological aspects of sexuality has helped support and transform tens, perhaps hundreds of thousands, of women around the world, over the course of her career. We learn that there is a massive industry that thrives from our lack of confidence and lack of self knowledge, and how to honor and respect ourselves and our choices while leaning into a sacred sexual space within ourselves and our lives. Saida Désilets – BIO Born and raised in various parts of Canada, “Succulence Revolutionary” Saida Désilets now travels the world speaking and sharing her extensive knowledge about women’s relationships with their bodies, minds, and spirits. The world leading expert on the jade egg practice, she has developed her own ‘Désilets Method’ to create “more pleasure, sexual aliveness, and deep self-love” in women. … Continue reading

24 :: Submitting To Your Dark Side

Episode Description In this episode, Tani Thole and Leslie Rogers, founders of the Light Dark Institute, join me for a powerful Valentine’s Day conversation! We dive into the hot, and sometimes taboo, topics of BDSM, Shame, and Humiliation as a form of therapy. Sounds kinky, but there’s way more to it than sex and sexuality. Tani and Leslie teach us about how exploring the both the light and deep dark aspects of our psyche in a safe, consensual environment can be the key to powerful awakening and emotional growth. Say YES to all facets of yourself and discover your hidden potential, in Ignite Intimacy Episode 24, Submitting to Your Dark Side! BIO – Tani Thole and Leslie Rogers Tani and Leslie share a passion for liberating individuals from things that hold them back. Together, they founded The Light Dark Institute as a safe place for people to tap into the beautiful and magical parts we hide out of shame. With honesty, and without sensationalizing it, they use BDSM as an incredible tool to help others find the light in the darkness. Please visit Tani and Leslie at lightdarkinsitute.com   … Continue reading

How I kicked resistance in the ass and launched my first solo CD!

WoweeeeWOW!!! Life is stretching me wide open & amazing me on the daily. It is dynamic, ever-changing, evolving, speaking to and through me in whispers and shouts, and showing me the way through subtle signs, soul-crushing doubt, and the guidance of others (strangers, family, friends, soul mates, teachers, clients… ). I have been given multiple opportunities to embrace life in all of its wild discomfort, in its resistance strong like a bulldozer ready to take me down. The burst of spring blossoming all around me reminds me that as dark as things can seem in my inner being, there are always new life seeds beneath the earth’s surface, sprouting, stretching, expanding beyond their core, their hard shell, taking that risk, that leap, choosing YES! I said “yes” to an opportunity to attend one of the most unique conferences for entrepreneurs in Fargo, ND this past weekend for the Misfits of the world. I said “yes” in 2013.. and as the date approached I felt major… I’m talkin’ MAJOR resistance here. There was no schedule, I had no idea who the speakers would be, I didn’t know anyone attending. I almost threw in the towel, gave up my ticket, turned my head … Continue reading

We did it!!! 'Pleasant Surprises' is my day 7 song for The Haykel Twins 7 day song challenge!

YES!! We did it! I’m sooo thankful to have co-collaborated with my twin sistar Salsa Sarah & our friend & colleague Kathleen on this ahhhmazing Song Challenge adventure. Here is my song for the final day, day 7 of The Haykel Twins 7 day song challenge! Click here to listen to my song “Pleasant Surprises.” I’ve been receiving such pleasant surprises lately! It continues to completely amaze me when I open my heart, trust in the divine flow of the universe and say YES to the incredible magic, miracles and synchronicity that is available to each of us in every moment. The best thing about this, is that pleasant, magical, heart expanding surprises are available to each of us every day! The most important thing is to: Open up to receive them Acknowledge and celebrate them (the big and the small 😉 How does it feel when you receive pleasant surprises in your life? Share in the comments section below about a pleasant surprise you’ve experienced lately, and how you celebrated this surprise in your life! Big UP, Many Blessings, and stay TUNED for a more official song challenge in the next couple months. We’ll be inviting YOU to get on board … Continue reading

Yes!! I'm having it! .. are you?!

I just returned from the sacred island of Bali and said YES to another golden opportunity upon returning: an intimate lunch meeting where myself and 12 other emerging young business leaders sat with Howard Zemsky, managing partner of Larkin Development Group who has revitalized the Larkin District in downtown Buffalo! I feel so blessed to be having these opportunities and for choosing to say YES to them! Check out this inspiring video below, just back from beautiful Bali and vibrating with abundant energy to believe and receive! I invite you to join me in integrating this new mantra into our lives, ‘Yes, I’m having it!’ And please leave a comment below because I want to know WHAT ARE YOU SAYING YES TO?!! Love & Bless,       … Continue reading

Exciting Announcement from The Haykel Twins!

My sistar Sarah and I are so excited to share a special announcement with you! We appreciate your support and sharing this journey with us and are joyously taking the next step towards deepening the conversation around women’s empowerment and raising the collective vibration!  Click here now to see our BIG announcement!   … Continue reading

When your big YES uncovers your shadow

Have you ever had a golden opportunity magically appear before your eyes, and although everything in your being is saying YES YES YES you have absolutely no idea how it will unfold, and then.. you take that risk, open up, stand in your powerful YES and then…. You think, ‘Oh shit.. what have I done?!!’ Because your big YES was really the Universe creating a sparkly, intriguing, captivating reason for you to step waaaaay outside of your comfort zone, do something you’ve been dreaming of doing for years, and not realizing that by actually doing it.. saying YES, booking the ticket, creating a plan, organizing your life around it… that holy sh*t this feels really BIG!  And, ummmm… kind of completely terrifying!!! And wow, am I equipped, brave, courageous, committed enough to go through with this?! Ha! I want to let you in on a little secret.  I have always dreamed of being a big worldwide traveler. Although I’ve traveled a few times to Europe, West Africa, Jamaica, Hawaii and all over the states, I have yet to go on a journey to the other side of the earth (holy crap!) with a few hefty double digit flights, a long … Continue reading

Flourishing now..

Wow.. it’s been a while and I am feeling called beyond called to being contributing to this blog on a regular basis again!  I am experiencing a high rate of growth and transformation in my life right now and I want to share it with the world! I made a choice last June that was terrifying to me on certain levels.  I listened to a call by this incredible Femme Entrepreneur Sage Lavine about an 8 month Entrepreneurial Leadership program she had put together.  Throughout the call my heart felt so open, expansive and light!  And surprisingly it remained that way even when I heard that the cost of this program would be $6495.  Yes, that is six THOUSAND four hundred and ninety five dollars.  I had to sit with that for a minute.  With it being the first year of my business this would be way beyond my budget and my savings account was close to ‘e’ as in empty (and empty creates space to fill it up, doesn’t it!) My heart was saying ‘YESSSS’ and my head was saying ‘you really need to think about this, don’t start putting money on your credit card you can’t pay off … Continue reading