74 :: Sexual Trauma, Spirituality + the Decolonization of Bodies with Rachel Halder

Episode Description

Giving a heads up that this is a more intense conversation on sexual trauma and the decolonization of bodies. If you’ve recently experienced or are working through past trauma you may want to check with your support system (therapist, doctor, coach, mentor) before listening to this episode.

Rachel Halder, a sacred sexuality specialist and empowerment coach, is a survivor of sexual trauma who has studied religion and the intersection of sexuality and spirituality.

Join us for a powerful conversation on sexual trauma, sexuality + spirituality, the decolonization of bodies, racism and healing on Episode 74 of Ignite Intimacy!

Rachel Halder – BIO

Rachel (many of who refer to as Rae) is a sacred sexuality specialist and empowerment coach helping spiritual seekers remove shame and blocks from their sexuality, reigniting passion and pleasure in a deep, holistic and integrated way. With an M.A. in Religion, she extensively researched sexual and spiritual healing through neuroscience, trauma recovery and embodied interspirituality, focusing on holistic healing for those marginalized or spiritually traumatized by the Christian Church through LGBTQ+ identification and/or sexual suppression or abuse. Rachel is also a graduate of the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality, with a specialization in the jade egg.

Connect with Rae:

Website: www.rachelhalder.com

Free Ebook “Sacred, Sexy & Whole: Undressing Purity Culture, Redressing Redemption”

Instagram: @thesacredandthesexy

Facebook page

Free Facebook group community – Sacred Sexuality Sisterhood 

Resources:

Sexual Assault Hotline – (877) 995-5247

Mosaic Mind, Empowering the Tormented Selves of Child Abuse Survivors

Peter Levine, Ph.D., developer of Somatic Experiencing

The Wheel of Consent – Betty Martin

Dr. Joy DeGruy Leary: Post Traumatic Slave Disorder

Scene on Radio ’Seeing White’ podcast series

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