35 :: Gender Fluidity & Being True to You with Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn

Episode Description

Did you know that transgender people are twice as likely to have a college degree but three times as likely to be unemployed? Or that you can in some states you can still be fired for being gay?

These are the issues that are facing LGBTQ entrepreneurs, and Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn are working to change the world of business for people within this community. They’ve taken their amazing talents and funneled them into bringing LGTBQ entrepreneurs into a business niche to vibe and thrive together.

We dive into their earlier lives, Caleb’s transgender journey, their relationships with themselves and each other, the beauty of openness and gender fluidity, and finding your place in the world. Join us for some juicy goodness on Episode 35 of Ignite Intimacy, Gender Fluidity & Being True to You with LGBTQ Entrepreneurs Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn!

Caleb and Matthew – BIOS

After suffering with confusion, self-loathing, and an eating disorder as a teen, Matthew overcame shame, guilt, and fear through the Celebrating Your Body Erotic workshop, and now makes a point of being naked as much as possible. Identifying as queer, he has expanded his talents for relationship coaching to include the business world.

Caleb is a queer identified transgender man who first identified as a lesbian, then transitioned in the early 2000s. Using his Masters in Business Administration, he worked in management, then as an attorney, before creating LGBTQ Entrepreneurs with Matthew.

Together for 3 years, and engaged, Caleb and Matthew live and work in the San Francisco Bay area, and make partner to partner communication a priority in their relationship.

Check out their website at LGBTQentrepreneur.com

Matthew’s website: www.eroticexploration.com

They are hosting Be Fabulous, Get Clients – a three day transformational summit for LGBTQ Entrepreneurs in September 2017 and giving away scholarships to it so check it out soon at:
https://www.lgbtqentrepreneur.com/summit

RESOURCES:

Inclusion, The Book – Jennifer Brown
The Ethical Slut – Janet W. Hardy
The Big Leap – Gay Hendricks

34 :: Sexuality & Psychology in NYC with Dulcinea Pitagora

Episode Description Have you ever felt alone or confused about your lifestyle, sexuality and the choices you make concerning the two? It took some effort, and I’m super excited that I finally got to have a conversation with the incredible Dulcinea Pitagora on these topics and more. This brilliant powerhouse specializes in providing support for those who may not be able to relate to, trust, or feel comfortable discussing their alternative lifestyles with just any therapist. Identifying as kink, queer, gender fluid and a past sex worker herself, Dulcinea can offer clients understanding, trust, and a strong knowledge of many lifestyles. Dulcinea continues to be the voice of the LGTBQ and BDSM communities, founding a variety of projects and creating resources for those seeking a shame free space to express their real selves. Dulcinea Pitagora – BIO Highly educated in psychology, social work, and human sexuality, Dulcinea Pitagora is also a researcher and well known member of NYC’s BDSM and LGBTQ communities. Running a private practice in Manhattan, Dulcinea is also the founder of ManhattanAlternative.com, a listing of alternative lifestyle affirmative service providers in New York City. A strong belief in encouraging sex positive education and tolerance has also led … Continue reading

32 :: Don’t Yuck Other People’s Yumm with Andrea Barrica

Episode Description This week on the Ignite Intimacy podcast, my sistar Sarah and I get filled in on all the juicy details of Andrea Barrica’s passion for reproductive justice and the birth of her online shame-free platform for pleasure education, O.School. Accepting the fluidity of sexuality from an early age, but pushing it aside to focus on her education, Andrea’s path has now brought her to create O.School and look into the future of sex and sex education. O.School is a judgement free online space to choose your own sex education adventure, with a diverse group of instructors leading courses ranging from communication and consent, to raising sex positive kids, to introduction to kink and fetish. Regardless of physical, cultural, locational, or educational differences, live streaming and live chat provide everyone with an inclusive, safe, and supportive community in which to unlearn shame and live in the desire the way it works for them. Andrea Barrica – BIO Andrea Barrica is no stranger to business ventures. After co-founding an accounting and tax platform at a very early age, she went on to have a hand in one of the world’s most active global seed funds. Now she combines her technological … Continue reading

30 :: Religion and Sex with Bob LaVallee

Episode Description Can religion and sexuality coexist in a harmonious and healthy way? Definitely, according to Bob LaVallee, and he thinks the place to start is the fundamental idea that sex is GOOD! Bob and I talk about keeping the shame and guilt out, and the holy and sacred in sex through lifelong education, acceptance, and changing our perceptions about this previously taboo subject. We also touch on the concept of toxic masculinity and how society’s expectations are keeping us from truly being ourselves. Experience the freedom that comes with finding a sweet balance on podcast Episode 30 of Ignite Intimacy, Religion and Sex with Bob LaVallee! Bob LaVallee – BIO Buffalo NY yoga teacher and self-described “Jesus-inspired humanist“, Bob LaVallee is a candidate for the Universalist ministry. A Marine Corps veteran, he can also be found working as a chaplain in a hospital cardiac unit. Bob is a certified facilitator of the Our Whole Lives (OWL) adult sexuality curriculum, a program that has seen many people who have suffered sexual loss experience a resurrection in their faith in God and sexuality. For more information about this program please visit: http://www.uua.org/re/owl … Continue reading

24 :: Submitting To Your Dark Side

Episode Description In this episode, Tani Thole and Leslie Rogers, founders of the Light Dark Institute, join me for a powerful Valentine’s Day conversation! We dive into the hot, and sometimes taboo, topics of BDSM, Shame, and Humiliation as a form of therapy. Sounds kinky, but there’s way more to it than sex and sexuality. Tani and Leslie teach us about how exploring the both the light and deep dark aspects of our psyche in a safe, consensual environment can be the key to powerful awakening and emotional growth. Say YES to all facets of yourself and discover your hidden potential, in Ignite Intimacy Episode 24, Submitting to Your Dark Side! BIO – Tani Thole and Leslie Rogers Tani and Leslie share a passion for liberating individuals from things that hold them back. Together, they founded The Light Dark Institute as a safe place for people to tap into the beautiful and magical parts we hide out of shame. With honesty, and without sensationalizing it, they use BDSM as an incredible tool to help others find the light in the darkness. Please visit Tani and Leslie at lightdarkinsitute.com   … Continue reading

23 :: Passion, Love, Sex, Freedom…for HIM with Shana James

Episode Description How can men have the love, sex, and intimacy that they want, with the partner they want? In this episode, we focus on passion, love, sex, and freedom from HIS perspective, and learn that when it comes to relationships, communication is KEY! My guest, Shana James, is dedicated to teaching men how to embody the qualities that draw people to them, and awaken in their own bodies. We discuss how important it is to take risks, to be willing to feel and overcome fear, and to embrace any and all outcomes of our actions. BIO – Shana James Shana’s love and compassion for men has made her an incredibly successful coach. She has worked on many projects, including leading events for Match.com and Table of six, and has also consulted for an MTV reality show. Through individualized methods, she helps men work through fear and shame, so they can experience fulfilling connections and real freedom. Find Shana at: http://ready2dateagain.com/ GET Shana’s 6 Steps to Entice Your Partner With Your Fantasies here: http://ready2dateagain.com/fantasy-conversation … Continue reading

22 :: Sexual Fluidity and Gender Identity with Rena McDaniel

Episode Description Are you, or is someone you know, feeling confused about sexuality or gender identity? Do you feel pressured to fit into a gender or sexuality “checkbox”? How can you work on feeling really authentic in your unique skin and bodies? Get READY, get CURIOUS, and get INFORMED, with my special guest Rena McDaniel, MEd, and certified Clinical Sexologist. Join us as we discuss sex education, and the vast range of sexual and gender identities that fall until the LGBTQ umbrella. Bio – Rena McDaniel Rena McDaniel,MEd is a Certified Sexologist and graduate of the University of Michigan’s Sexual Health Certificate Program with specializations in Sex Therapy and Sexuality Education. Through her pleasure-positive practice, Rena is focused on helping her clients find confidence and happiness in their own skin, sexuality, and relationships. For more information about Rena and her work, please visit: www.practicalaudacity.com www.facebook.com/practicalaudacity IG: PracticalAudacity … Continue reading

18 :: Jealousy Jealousy Jealousy with Kathy Labriola

 Episode Description: Do you feel scared and anxious when you meet people who you think are prettier, more successful or sexier than you? Worried that your partner might like them better than you? What do you do when you see that your partner has been liking sexy pictures of an ex on social media? and…. How do you let go of the past and past hurts and deceits to be fully present in your current relationship? Kathy Labriola and I are diving into that ohhhh sooo uncomfortable emotion of Jealousy and how we can navigate the feelings that Jealousy stirs up within us so that we can have more powerful relationships with ourselves, our lovers, and our partners. Kathy is sharing her tips and tricks for redefining our relationship to Jealousy in episode 18 of Ignite Intimacy! Kathy Labriola– BIO Kathy Labriola is a nurse, counselor, and hypnotherapist in private practice in Berkeley, California. She provides affordable mental health services to alternative communities. A card-carrying bisexual and polyamorist for over 40 years, Kathy is a political activist and community organizer. She is extra crunchy, lives in a housing cooperative, rides a bike, and raises chickens and organic vegetables. Get Kathy’s Jealousy Workbook here: https://www.amazon.com/Jealousy-Workbook-Exercises-Insights-Relationships/dp/0937609633 Contact her at: (510) … Continue reading

17 :: Inviting Desire, Sex & Intimacy Communication Tips with Walker Thornton

Episode Description: Struggle with communication in the bedroom or in your relationship(s) in general? Wish you knew how to express your needs in a way that won’t turn your partner off or have them feeling insecure and sensitive about their ability to (or not to) pleasure you? Feeling disconnected from your sex drive in middle age and need to reignite the juiciest parts of yourself?! Well… we’ve got some super awesome tricks and tips for you. Author Walker Thornton is on a mission to create a group of sexuality awakened individuals. Walker Thornton – BIO Walker Thornton is a sex educator, speaker, and sexual health writer. Her mission is to help women embrace their sexuality in a way that feels comfortable at each stage of life. Her writing has appeared on the American Sexual Health Association website, Huffington Post, Better After 50, Senior Planet, and other sites. She is the Sexual Health Columnist for Midlife Boulevard and writes about midlife sexuality at Kinkly.com. Walker currently serves on the Sexuality and Aging Consortium of Widener University’s Leadership Committee. She has presented at the Sexuality and Aging Symposium, CatalystCon, and in other venues across the country. A former executive director of sexual assault … Continue reading

16 :: Making STD Disclosure Sexy with Adrial from The ‘H’ (Herpes) Opportunity

Episode Description: Have you or someone you know contracted an STD? Not sure when or HOW to disclose to new partners about your STD status? Sick of the stigmas around Herpes and other STD’s? Tired of potential partners (or current ones) not taking responsibility for their sexual health by NOT getting tested?! Then this episode of Ignite Intimacy is for you. Join the powerful and courageous Adrial, of H Opportunity, and I as we dive deep into the topics of STD’s, Herpes diagnosis’ and the POWER of Full Disclosure on Episode 16 of Ignite Intimacy!! We’re making disclosure sexy baby… This episode is really powerful and very personal for me. We’re going in on this one and honestly.. it’s an episode everyone should tune in for. Adrial – BIO Adrial specializes in helping people move through sexual shame into a full embrace of their lives. In his own life and from working with hundreds of people, he has seen how shame can cripple connection and intimacy. In his work with the herpes community through creating The Herpes Opportunity and in the broader application of relational practices, Adrial supports people in realizing that when they clear shame, they not only have more … Continue reading