35 :: Gender Fluidity & Being True to You with Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn

Episode Description

Did you know that transgender people are twice as likely to have a college degree but three times as likely to be unemployed? Or that you can in some states you can still be fired for being gay?

These are the issues that are facing LGBTQ entrepreneurs, and Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn are working to change the world of business for people within this community. They’ve taken their amazing talents and funneled them into bringing LGTBQ entrepreneurs into a business niche to vibe and thrive together.

We dive into their earlier lives, Caleb’s transgender journey, their relationships with themselves and each other, the beauty of openness and gender fluidity, and finding your place in the world. Join us for some juicy goodness on Episode 35 of Ignite Intimacy, Gender Fluidity & Being True to You with LGBTQ Entrepreneurs Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn!

Caleb and Matthew – BIOS

After suffering with confusion, self-loathing, and an eating disorder as a teen, Matthew overcame shame, guilt, and fear through the Celebrating Your Body Erotic workshop, and now makes a point of being naked as much as possible. Identifying as queer, he has expanded his talents for relationship coaching to include the business world.

Caleb is a queer identified transgender man who first identified as a lesbian, then transitioned in the early 2000s. Using his Masters in Business Administration, he worked in management, then as an attorney, before creating LGBTQ Entrepreneurs with Matthew.

Together for 3 years, and engaged, Caleb and Matthew live and work in the San Francisco Bay area, and make partner to partner communication a priority in their relationship.

Check out their website at LGBTQentrepreneur.com

Matthew’s website: www.eroticexploration.com

They are hosting Be Fabulous, Get Clients – a three day transformational summit for LGBTQ Entrepreneurs in September 2017 and giving away scholarships to it so check it out soon at:
https://www.lgbtqentrepreneur.com/summit

RESOURCES:

Inclusion, The Book – Jennifer Brown
The Ethical Slut – Janet W. Hardy
The Big Leap – Gay Hendricks

34 :: Sexuality & Psychology in NYC with Dulcinea Pitagora

Episode Description Have you ever felt alone or confused about your lifestyle, sexuality and the choices you make concerning the two? It took some effort, and I’m super excited that I finally got to have a conversation with the incredible Dulcinea Pitagora on these topics and more. This brilliant powerhouse specializes in providing support for those who may not be able to relate to, trust, or feel comfortable discussing their alternative lifestyles with just any therapist. Identifying as kink, queer, gender fluid and a past sex worker herself, Dulcinea can offer clients understanding, trust, and a strong knowledge of many lifestyles. Dulcinea continues to be the voice of the LGTBQ and BDSM communities, founding a variety of projects and creating resources for those seeking a shame free space to express their real selves. Dulcinea Pitagora – BIO Highly educated in psychology, social work, and human sexuality, Dulcinea Pitagora is also a researcher and well known member of NYC’s BDSM and LGBTQ communities. Running a private practice in Manhattan, Dulcinea is also the founder of ManhattanAlternative.com, a listing of alternative lifestyle affirmative service providers in New York City. A strong belief in encouraging sex positive education and tolerance has also led … Continue reading

31 :: Sensual Poetry with Deleonora Abel

Episode Description: Sweet and pungent, she deliberates, parting the exquisite flesh as juices moisten her fingers. (from ‘Mango’) In this episode of Ignite Intimacy, Deleonora Abel shares with us her gorgeous and erotic poetry. Not only are her words tantalizing, so is her voice and the way the words come forth from her being. She is a force, both powerful and soft, divine and adventurous. Enjoy a new twist for this episode of Ignite Intimacy, Sensual Poetry with Deleneora Abel! Sychronized, their auras collide and two become one. (from ‘La Petite Mort’) Deleonora Abel – BIO   An inspired and imaginative soul, raised being told that creativity should only be a hobby, Australian poet, novelist, and screenwriter Deleonora Abel has only now fully embraced her talent for writing. Using poetry and writing as a sanctuary during her experiences putting herself through college as a single mother, and taking care of her cancer-stricken mother for the last months of her life, she paints a picture in your mind of every woman’s journey from girlhood to motherhood. Using a style known as écriture féminine in her work, whose purpose is to return women to writing and express repressed sexual pleasure, Deleonora’s writing … Continue reading

30 :: Religion and Sex with Bob LaVallee

Episode Description Can religion and sexuality coexist in a harmonious and healthy way? Definitely, according to Bob LaVallee, and he thinks the place to start is the fundamental idea that sex is GOOD! Bob and I talk about keeping the shame and guilt out, and the holy and sacred in sex through lifelong education, acceptance, and changing our perceptions about this previously taboo subject. We also touch on the concept of toxic masculinity and how society’s expectations are keeping us from truly being ourselves. Experience the freedom that comes with finding a sweet balance on podcast Episode 30 of Ignite Intimacy, Religion and Sex with Bob LaVallee! Bob LaVallee – BIO Buffalo NY yoga teacher and self-described “Jesus-inspired humanist“, Bob LaVallee is a candidate for the Universalist ministry. A Marine Corps veteran, he can also be found working as a chaplain in a hospital cardiac unit. Bob is a certified facilitator of the Our Whole Lives (OWL) adult sexuality curriculum, a program that has seen many people who have suffered sexual loss experience a resurrection in their faith in God and sexuality. For more information about this program please visit: http://www.uua.org/re/owl … Continue reading

29 :: Sexual Sovereignty with Saida Désilets

Episode Description Saida Désilets’ journey is one that flowed from erotic innocence, through near-deadly sexual trauma, to healing. Her experiences are a testament to the fact that the right direction is not always the easy one. Despite facing extreme challenges in life, Saida has always chosen to embrace her wounds and use them to lead her on her path of synchronicity and discovery. Saida’s jade egg practice and research on the psychological aspects of sexuality has helped support and transform tens, perhaps hundreds of thousands, of women around the world, over the course of her career. We learn that there is a massive industry that thrives from our lack of confidence and lack of self knowledge, and how to honor and respect ourselves and our choices while leaning into a sacred sexual space within ourselves and our lives. Saida Désilets – BIO Born and raised in various parts of Canada, “Succulence Revolutionary” Saida Désilets now travels the world speaking and sharing her extensive knowledge about women’s relationships with their bodies, minds, and spirits. The world leading expert on the jade egg practice, she has developed her own ‘Désilets Method’ to create “more pleasure, sexual aliveness, and deep self-love” in women. … Continue reading

28 :: Proactive, Playful & Positive Relationships with Gaby and Raj Sundra

Episode Description: Gaby and Raj Sundra are the ultimate proof that a chaotic relationship can be transformed into a magical and amazing bond. In this episode full of energy, love, and laughs, they share their tools for decreasing relationship negativity using the Drama Free Diet and the “magic ratio” that will keep positivity at the forefront of everything you do! Find out how you can overcome the hurdles in your relationship, stop conflicts before they start, and bring in more intimacy, vulnerability, and most importantly, play! Gaby and Raj – BIO Santa Barbara based coaches and busy owners of two businesses, Gaby and Raj have known their share of relationship chaos. Together for over a decade, they chose to take a unique approach to solving their conflicts and have now formulated a program based in fun to help couples “play” through their problems. Gaby, an extroverted lifelong learner, holds a Masters degree in Education, Counseling & Guidance. Raj, a go-getting lover of knowledge, holds a Masters degree from Cornell. Together, they help couples “Keep the Fights Clean and the Sex Dirty”!   Want to know more? Website: www.relationshipfunandgames.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipFunAndGames/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationshipfunandgames/ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDWmb4e1MdW5l_p7lF73gAg?view_as=public Check out this video! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TsAs_j_rz3U … Continue reading

I Haven’t Disappeared.. I’ve Been Working on my Podcast ‘Ignite Intimacy’!!

It’s been a looooong time… too long since I’ve been in touch. And there’s a reason for that. This year, not only did I make a HUGE life transition by driving across the country to relocate to California, I was SO blessed to be able to launch a project that has been in my heart for a long time: my first ever podcast, Ignite Intimacy!  Ignite Intimacy started as a way to dive deeper into my own education and exploration of intimacy, romantic relationships, sexuality, and everything that goes with it! In each episode I share an honest and juicy conversation with an amazing guest about anything – sex education and parenting,  pornography, open relationships, jealousy and more. Raw, SEXY, and at times very emotional, these podcasts are meant to inspire and empower you!   The truth of the matter is that I’m so excited to share Ignite Intimacy with you. We’re already getting great feedback: “It takes a rare skill to be able to open up a raw discussion about sensuality, sexuality and relationships…Laura has done that in a way that anyone can relate, learn and grow from…can’t wait to see how it continues to evolve.“  ~Amy C., Journalist, Writer “Hearing the podcast … Continue reading

2 :: Put More Love On It with Abba Yahudah

Episode Description: Abba Yahudah is a true mystic and renaissance man. He is the only person I know to date who hasn’t touched a dollar bill, or no other form of money in over 20 years. He went barefoot for 7 years and has lived, loved and journeyed around the world seeking wisdom from cultures near and far. Born in Jamaica, and now living in Oakland, California, Abba Yahudah is a multi-passionate entrepreneur and creative. Aside from launching successful business ventures with his close family and community like Inesscents Aromatic Botanicals, OAKSTOP – a co-working space in downtown Oakland, CA and Got Brand Solutions – a branding and marketing firm in the Bay Area, he is also a renowned fine artist, author and architectural designer. Tune in to our conversation on the Ignite Intimacy podcast where we venture into and through the topics of redefining our relationship to intimacy, maximizing the family dynamic in order to develop deeper intimacy with each other, the creation of taboos that are the root cause of certain perversions, choosing freedom over love, the divine Feminine, honoring our own (and others) divine alters and so much more. This conversation is filled with insights and wisdom … Continue reading

1:: Ignite Intimacy Podcast Intro Episode ~ We’re going IN!

Welcome to this brand spanking new podcast created to dive deep into the topics of intimacy, romantic relationships and sexuality and the all of everything that connects, aligns and intersects with these topics! Join me, your host, Ms. LAH and my enticing, brilliant, courageous, and sometimes freaky guests as we explore taboo subjects that many of us think or fantasize about, but may not openly talk about or share with our friends and loved ones. Here’s the deal.. I’ve always been fascinated by the world of relational experiences, and the energies of romantic love, intimacy and sexuality. Discovering all of the layers that these topics create in our lives and the complexities of our relationship to these topics fascinates me! In January 2016, as I was one month into my first ever ‘Man Pause’ an energy larger than me began pulling me forward to explore all of these topics on a much larger scale. As I began inquiring with friends, family and random strangers one thing became crystal clear.. We, as a collective, don’t seem to be having transparent conversations about these topics enough. So, I figured it was the perfect time to launch the Ignite Intimacy podcast, which will be a container … Continue reading