35 :: Gender Fluidity & Being True to You with Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn

Episode Description

Did you know that transgender people are twice as likely to have a college degree but three times as likely to be unemployed? Or that you can in some states you can still be fired for being gay?

These are the issues that are facing LGBTQ entrepreneurs, and Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn are working to change the world of business for people within this community. They’ve taken their amazing talents and funneled them into bringing LGTBQ entrepreneurs into a business niche to vibe and thrive together.

We dive into their earlier lives, Caleb’s transgender journey, their relationships with themselves and each other, the beauty of openness and gender fluidity, and finding your place in the world. Join us for some juicy goodness on Episode 35 of Ignite Intimacy, Gender Fluidity & Being True to You with LGBTQ Entrepreneurs Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn!

Caleb and Matthew – BIOS

After suffering with confusion, self-loathing, and an eating disorder as a teen, Matthew overcame shame, guilt, and fear through the Celebrating Your Body Erotic workshop, and now makes a point of being naked as much as possible. Identifying as queer, he has expanded his talents for relationship coaching to include the business world.

Caleb is a queer identified transgender man who first identified as a lesbian, then transitioned in the early 2000s. Using his Masters in Business Administration, he worked in management, then as an attorney, before creating LGBTQ Entrepreneurs with Matthew.

Together for 3 years, and engaged, Caleb and Matthew live and work in the San Francisco Bay area, and make partner to partner communication a priority in their relationship.

Check out their website at LGBTQentrepreneur.com

Matthew’s website: www.eroticexploration.com

They are hosting Be Fabulous, Get Clients – a three day transformational summit for LGBTQ Entrepreneurs in September 2017 and giving away scholarships to it so check it out soon at:
https://www.lgbtqentrepreneur.com/summit

RESOURCES:

Inclusion, The Book – Jennifer Brown
The Ethical Slut – Janet W. Hardy
The Big Leap – Gay Hendricks

34 :: Sexuality & Psychology in NYC with Dulcinea Pitagora

Episode Description Have you ever felt alone or confused about your lifestyle, sexuality and the choices you make concerning the two? It took some effort, and I’m super excited that I finally got to have a conversation with the incredible Dulcinea Pitagora on these topics and more. This brilliant powerhouse specializes in providing support for those who may not be able to relate to, trust, or feel comfortable discussing their alternative lifestyles with just any therapist. Identifying as kink, queer, gender fluid and a past sex worker herself, Dulcinea can offer clients understanding, trust, and a strong knowledge of many lifestyles. Dulcinea continues to be the voice of the LGTBQ and BDSM communities, founding a variety of projects and creating resources for those seeking a shame free space to express their real selves. Dulcinea Pitagora – BIO Highly educated in psychology, social work, and human sexuality, Dulcinea Pitagora is also a researcher and well known member of NYC’s BDSM and LGBTQ communities. Running a private practice in Manhattan, Dulcinea is also the founder of ManhattanAlternative.com, a listing of alternative lifestyle affirmative service providers in New York City. A strong belief in encouraging sex positive education and tolerance has also led … Continue reading

30 :: Religion and Sex with Bob LaVallee

Episode Description Can religion and sexuality coexist in a harmonious and healthy way? Definitely, according to Bob LaVallee, and he thinks the place to start is the fundamental idea that sex is GOOD! Bob and I talk about keeping the shame and guilt out, and the holy and sacred in sex through lifelong education, acceptance, and changing our perceptions about this previously taboo subject. We also touch on the concept of toxic masculinity and how society’s expectations are keeping us from truly being ourselves. Experience the freedom that comes with finding a sweet balance on podcast Episode 30 of Ignite Intimacy, Religion and Sex with Bob LaVallee! Bob LaVallee – BIO Buffalo NY yoga teacher and self-described “Jesus-inspired humanist“, Bob LaVallee is a candidate for the Universalist ministry. A Marine Corps veteran, he can also be found working as a chaplain in a hospital cardiac unit. Bob is a certified facilitator of the Our Whole Lives (OWL) adult sexuality curriculum, a program that has seen many people who have suffered sexual loss experience a resurrection in their faith in God and sexuality. For more information about this program please visit: http://www.uua.org/re/owl … Continue reading

29 :: Sexual Sovereignty with Saida Désilets

Episode Description Saida Désilets’ journey is one that flowed from erotic innocence, through near-deadly sexual trauma, to healing. Her experiences are a testament to the fact that the right direction is not always the easy one. Despite facing extreme challenges in life, Saida has always chosen to embrace her wounds and use them to lead her on her path of synchronicity and discovery. Saida’s jade egg practice and research on the psychological aspects of sexuality has helped support and transform tens, perhaps hundreds of thousands, of women around the world, over the course of her career. We learn that there is a massive industry that thrives from our lack of confidence and lack of self knowledge, and how to honor and respect ourselves and our choices while leaning into a sacred sexual space within ourselves and our lives. Saida Désilets – BIO Born and raised in various parts of Canada, “Succulence Revolutionary” Saida Désilets now travels the world speaking and sharing her extensive knowledge about women’s relationships with their bodies, minds, and spirits. The world leading expert on the jade egg practice, she has developed her own ‘Désilets Method’ to create “more pleasure, sexual aliveness, and deep self-love” in women. … Continue reading

28 :: Proactive, Playful & Positive Relationships with Gaby and Raj Sundra

Episode Description: Gaby and Raj Sundra are the ultimate proof that a chaotic relationship can be transformed into a magical and amazing bond. In this episode full of energy, love, and laughs, they share their tools for decreasing relationship negativity using the Drama Free Diet and the “magic ratio” that will keep positivity at the forefront of everything you do! Find out how you can overcome the hurdles in your relationship, stop conflicts before they start, and bring in more intimacy, vulnerability, and most importantly, play! Gaby and Raj – BIO Santa Barbara based coaches and busy owners of two businesses, Gaby and Raj have known their share of relationship chaos. Together for over a decade, they chose to take a unique approach to solving their conflicts and have now formulated a program based in fun to help couples “play” through their problems. Gaby, an extroverted lifelong learner, holds a Masters degree in Education, Counseling & Guidance. Raj, a go-getting lover of knowledge, holds a Masters degree from Cornell. Together, they help couples “Keep the Fights Clean and the Sex Dirty”!   Want to know more? Website: www.relationshipfunandgames.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipFunAndGames/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationshipfunandgames/ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDWmb4e1MdW5l_p7lF73gAg?view_as=public Check out this video! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TsAs_j_rz3U … Continue reading

26 :: Millennial ED is a Thing with Tantrika Dani Katz

Episode Description: Did you know that erectile dysfunction is becoming WAY more common in men in their 20s and 30s? Maybe you’ve experienced it yourself already and wondered HOW and WHY???  Well this week’s episode just might have the answers you’re looking for! Based on an article she wrote in Vice, my guest, Tantrika and writer Dani Katz, and I explore how click-of-a-button access to free porn is creating a whole new generation of men who not only can’t get or maintain an erection, but can’t get or maintain a healthy emotional and physical relationship! We discuss the effect of the feminine movement on modern men, and how to embody and balance both your female and male energies. And, of course, we talk “Millennial ED” and how you can heal your body, brain, and spirit in Episode 26, Millennial ED is a Thing with Tantrika Dani Katz! Bio – Dani Katz Dani Katz is an published writer of articles in, among others, LA Weekly, Los Angeles Times, Whole Life Times, Swindle, LA Yoga, Santa Fe Reporter, nerve.c om and Reality Sandwich.  She is also a whimsical artist, tantric practitioner, product developer, and she recently released her book Yes, I Am. Born and raised … Continue reading

25 :: Confidence, Connection, and Cravings with Alexandra Jamieson

Episode Description: On this week’s episode of Ignite Intimacy, champion for women, Alexandra Jamieson, and I discuss her personal journey of self-discovery and the importance of giving your body what it needs, physically and emotionally. We explore feminine confidence, honoring your cravings, and finding the path to pleasure in a healthy and sustaining way! Find out how you can discover what you really want, ASK for it and GET it on Episode 25, Confidence, Connection, and Cravings with Alexandra Jamieson! Alexandra Jamieson – BIO A best-selling author, chef, co-creator the popular documentary Supersize Me, and life-long learner, Alexandra Jamieson works to empower women to grow into their genuine, confident selves. Through her own experiences and education in wellness, cravings, and sexuality, she inspires others to discover and speak their own truth. Find Alex at: www.alexandrajamieson.com CravingsQuiz.com iTunes podcast: Her Rules Radio   … Continue reading

24 :: Submitting To Your Dark Side

Episode Description In this episode, Tani Thole and Leslie Rogers, founders of the Light Dark Institute, join me for a powerful Valentine’s Day conversation! We dive into the hot, and sometimes taboo, topics of BDSM, Shame, and Humiliation as a form of therapy. Sounds kinky, but there’s way more to it than sex and sexuality. Tani and Leslie teach us about how exploring the both the light and deep dark aspects of our psyche in a safe, consensual environment can be the key to powerful awakening and emotional growth. Say YES to all facets of yourself and discover your hidden potential, in Ignite Intimacy Episode 24, Submitting to Your Dark Side! BIO – Tani Thole and Leslie Rogers Tani and Leslie share a passion for liberating individuals from things that hold them back. Together, they founded The Light Dark Institute as a safe place for people to tap into the beautiful and magical parts we hide out of shame. With honesty, and without sensationalizing it, they use BDSM as an incredible tool to help others find the light in the darkness. Please visit Tani and Leslie at lightdarkinsitute.com   … Continue reading

23 :: Passion, Love, Sex, Freedom…for HIM with Shana James

Episode Description How can men have the love, sex, and intimacy that they want, with the partner they want? In this episode, we focus on passion, love, sex, and freedom from HIS perspective, and learn that when it comes to relationships, communication is KEY! My guest, Shana James, is dedicated to teaching men how to embody the qualities that draw people to them, and awaken in their own bodies. We discuss how important it is to take risks, to be willing to feel and overcome fear, and to embrace any and all outcomes of our actions. BIO – Shana James Shana’s love and compassion for men has made her an incredibly successful coach. She has worked on many projects, including leading events for Match.com and Table of six, and has also consulted for an MTV reality show. Through individualized methods, she helps men work through fear and shame, so they can experience fulfilling connections and real freedom. Find Shana at: http://ready2dateagain.com/ GET Shana’s 6 Steps to Entice Your Partner With Your Fantasies here: http://ready2dateagain.com/fantasy-conversation … Continue reading

22 :: Sexual Fluidity and Gender Identity with Rena McDaniel

Episode Description Are you, or is someone you know, feeling confused about sexuality or gender identity? Do you feel pressured to fit into a gender or sexuality “checkbox”? How can you work on feeling really authentic in your unique skin and bodies? Get READY, get CURIOUS, and get INFORMED, with my special guest Rena McDaniel, MEd, and certified Clinical Sexologist. Join us as we discuss sex education, and the vast range of sexual and gender identities that fall until the LGBTQ umbrella. Bio – Rena McDaniel Rena McDaniel,MEd is a Certified Sexologist and graduate of the University of Michigan’s Sexual Health Certificate Program with specializations in Sex Therapy and Sexuality Education. Through her pleasure-positive practice, Rena is focused on helping her clients find confidence and happiness in their own skin, sexuality, and relationships. For more information about Rena and her work, please visit: www.practicalaudacity.com www.facebook.com/practicalaudacity IG: PracticalAudacity … Continue reading