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74 :: Sexual Trauma, Spirituality + the Decolonization of Bodies with Rachel Halder

Episode Description

Giving a heads up that this is a more intense conversation on sexual trauma and the decolonization of bodies. If you’ve recently experienced or are working through past trauma you may want to check with your support system (therapist, doctor, coach, mentor) before listening to this episode.

Rachel Halder, a sacred sexuality specialist and empowerment coach, is a survivor of sexual trauma who has studied religion and the intersection of sexuality and spirituality.

Join us for a powerful conversation on sexual trauma, sexuality + spirituality, the decolonization of bodies, racism and healing on Episode 74 of Ignite Intimacy!

Rachel Halder – BIO

Rachel (many of who refer to as Rae) is a sacred sexuality specialist and empowerment coach helping spiritual seekers remove shame and blocks from their sexuality, reigniting passion and pleasure in a deep, holistic and integrated way. With an M.A. in Religion, she extensively researched sexual and spiritual healing through neuroscience, trauma recovery and embodied interspirituality, focusing on holistic healing for those marginalized or spiritually traumatized by the Christian Church through LGBTQ+ identification and/or sexual suppression or abuse. Rachel is also a graduate of the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality, with a specialization in the jade egg.

Connect with Rae:

Website: www.rachelhalder.com

Free Ebook “Sacred, Sexy & Whole: Undressing Purity Culture, Redressing Redemption”

Instagram: @thesacredandthesexy

Facebook page

Free Facebook group community – Sacred Sexuality Sisterhood 

Resources:

Sexual Assault Hotline – (877) 995-5247

Mosaic Mind, Empowering the Tormented Selves of Child Abuse Survivors

Peter Levine, Ph.D., developer of Somatic Experiencing

The Wheel of Consent – Betty Martin

Dr. Joy DeGruy Leary: Post Traumatic Slave Disorder

Scene on Radio ’Seeing White’ podcast series

73 :: Guy-Q + Dating + Choosing the Right Mate with Kongit Farrell

Episode Description Description: Kongit Farrell is a Goddess Powerhouse, no two ways about it (just take a look at her bio!!) She’s been taking a stand to empower her clients and community to form and sustain healthy, empowered relationships with ourselves and each other.On this episode Kongit and I go deep into clarifying the type of relationships we want, doing the work we need to do in order to attract and sustain those relationships and fine tuning our ‘Guy-Q’ so that we are clear about and courageous enough to say yes to what works and no to what doesn’t. If you’re interested in the world of dating, relationship and ‘Guy-Q,’ allowing others (and ourselves) to be where we are in our relating while being powerful to either embrace or walk away from a situation that doesn’t serve us, then this episode is for you! There are some juicy tips so tune in for my conversation with Kongit Farrell on Ignite Intimacy! Kongit Farrell – BIO Kongit Farrell is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, her therapeutic approach rooted in CBT, Narrative and Solution-Focused methodologies. She is an EMDR therapist and is completing advanced course work in Sex Therapy at The … Continue reading →

72 :: Pleasure + Infidelity + Truth Telling with Robert Kandell

Episode Description Robert Kandell is a powerful stand for Men having a transformation in the world of relationships, romance, truth telling, sex and love. This is important and essential work because, from my estimation, men are largely demonized, emasculated and kept out of the conversation. Join us for an energizing, empowering and thought provoking episode focused on pleasure, permission, truth telling, infidelity, forgiveness and relationship styles on Episode 72 of Ignite Intimacy! Robert Kandell – BIO An expert in interpersonal communication and relationships, Robert Kandell has helped thousands of students find a more balanced, energized life with better relationships, more sex and more happiness. He is the host of the highly successes podcast, Tuff Love. To learn more about Robert and his revolutionary work, visit www.RobertKandell.com Links: Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube LinkedIn Resources: Fierce Honesty – How To Boldly Transform Your Relationships + Your Life – Article by Robert Kandell No More Mister Nice Guy – Dr. Robert A. Glover End of Men – Hanna Rosen The War Against Boys – Christina Hoff Sommers … Continue reading →

71 :: Juicebox, Sex Advice + Future of Sex with Brianna Rader

Episode Description Brianna Rader is an entrepreneur, sex tech innovator and founder of the Juicebox APP whose sex education organization at the University of Tennessee was shut down by state legislature for being too risqué. Join us as we have an engaging conversation about new APP Juicebox (giving you access to sex and relationship therapists on the go), sex advice, toys + lube, communication before, during and after (of course) and the future of sex on Episode 72 of Ignite Intimacy!! Brianna Rader – BIO Brianna Rader is a sex education advocate well-known for starting a comprehensive sex education organization at the University of Tennessee that led to her being condemned by the state legislature. She received a Masters in Global Health from UCSF and then created Juicebox, an iOS app that pairs you with professional sex and relationship coaches from a network of certified and vetted experts. App link Website link Promo code for Juicebox Ignite Intimacy listeners enter the IGNITE code will get 60% off your first week of Juicebox! References Uber Lube Sliquid Eva vibrator Cliteracy by Sophia Wallace … Continue reading →

70 :: Consensuality + Slow Play + Safer Sex Foreplay Convos with Rachael Maddox

Episode Description Holy Goddess Gracious!! Rachael Maddox is a powerhouse and YOU are in for a treat on this episode!! Not only does Rachael give us the goods on healing trauma and learning to say no in powerful and sexy ways, she also gives us some of her go-to processes to create more intimacy, vulnerability, closeness and power in our romantic and intimate relationships before we get naked and during the exploration period. From top to bottom this episode is FIYAH! You will definitely want to check this episode of Ignite Intimacy! Rachael Maddox – BIO Rachael Maddox is a trauma resolution educator, coach and guide who’s helped hundreds of women and men resolve their sexual trauma and reclaim their pleasure, power and wholeness. On a fierce mission to help as many women as possible who’ve experienced trauma, Rachael offers one-on-one support, groups, articles and courses for women who are ready to dance hard with life. For fun, Rachael writes songs on her ukulele, swims naked as often as possible, and lays quietly under trees. Links: Website Grown Goddess Video Series Instagram Facebook Resources: SECRET BAD GIRL – by Rachael Maddox   … Continue reading →

69 :: Permission, Self Image + Being Bootylicious with Morgen Love

Episode Description Morgen Love is a powerful being and force in this life. I have personally witnessed her transformation over the last several years, which includes coming out to the worldwide community about being queer, embracing your own flavor of sexiness, consent, being powerful in your vulnerability and being an activist for sex workers, the LGBTQ+ community and for being safe to let your freak flag fly! This woman is blowing my heart and mind wide open and I’m SUPER excited at the thought of her being a regular contributor to the Ignite Intimacy podcast. Morgen shares another one of her musings with us on this episode and you definitely want in on this conversation!! Morgen Love – BIO Morgen is a New York-bred Oakland-based multidisciplinary artist and performer who believes in speaking candidly and openly about human sexuality and pleasure. Known as both a wild card and a wisdom-keeper, she artfully weaves the sacred and profane throughout her written musings that chronicle her journeys of womanhood, queerness, personal growth, and sexual exploration. IG :: @daddie.dearest + @dutchess.love Soundcloud :: daddiedearest + thedutchesslove Patreon  Web … Continue reading →

68 :: Frog Farmers, Belly Fat, Emasculation + Misinterpretations with Alison Armstrong

Episode Description Alison Armstrong has been studying men, relationships and romance for over two decades after a friend told her she was a ‘Frog Farmer.’ Her book, ‘The Queen’s Code,’ focusing on the emasculation of men and how to go from a frog farmer to someone who turns frogs into Kings, has been revolutionary for women and men around the world. Alison’s work has impacted thousands of people through her online community at UnderstandMen.com where she has programs and ongoing materials that help people like me (and, maybe, you?!) crack the code on dating, romance, communication and truly creating the love lives we desire. This is a RAPID FIRE conversation where we cover a LOT in a short time frame. Enjoy it, share it with your friends and check out Alison’s programs via her website below! Alison Armstrong – BIO Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely acclaimed “Understanding Men” and “Understanding Women” transformational online series, asks the question: “What if no one is misbehaving — including you?”  She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based, solutions to improve our … Continue reading →

67 :: Female Choice Paradigm, Female Sexuality + Living Polyamorous with Kenya of JujuMama.com

Episode Description Strap on your seat belt for this one because you are in for something special!!! Last week we heard from Kenya’s husband Rakhem on Episode 66. This week we hear from his Wife, business and life partner Kenya about her journey from embracing the feminine after discovering uterine cancer with the birth of her first child, to the choice to open her marriage and be a catalyst for relating in her community and in the world. This is a DYNAMIC conversation that you definitely want to listen to no matter which gender or non gender you align with! We are diving into the Female Choice Paradigm, the Sexuality of the Human Species, Living Polyamorous, Healing Trauma, Keelung it Real and more on Episode 67 of Ignite Intimacy!! Kenya Stevens – BIO Kenya K. Stevens is a relationships expert, love coach, best-selling author, wife, and mother of three. A graduate of Howard University in Washington D.C. she has a degree in Education/ Child Psychology. She now lives in the mountains of North Carolina raising three children with her husband, Carl and practicing yoga, breathing, meditation, tantra, ancient spiritual systems and metaphysical thought. Contact: JujuMama Love Academy … Continue reading →

66 :: Open Relating, Female Choice + Gender Harmonics with Rakhem Seku

Episode Description Rakhem Seku got his sexual education like many of us, from porn and the movies. This is what drove him as a sexual being. When he married his wife at 25 their sex life was OK, maybe a C. 10 years into their marriage they started studying tantra, which opened things up for them sexually and otherwise. For Rakhem, tantra also began a journey of him expanding and deepening his understanding of what women desire, and who women are as sexual beings. Join us for a powerful and juicy conversation about men, women, sexuality, relating, honesty, dispelling myths and having it all on Episode 66 of Ignite Intimacy! Rakhem Seku – BIO Carl E. Stevens, Jr. (aka Rakhem Seku) is a metaphysician, life and love coach, and author. Through the JujuMama Love Academy, Rakhem and his wife Kenya teach the Bagua Astrology System (BAS) and applies metaphysical concepts to support people in creating the lives they desire. Married over twenty years with 3 children, Rakhem has been on numerous television and radio shows and has a degree in Industrial Engineering and an MBA in finance. Contact: Email: mail@jujumama.com Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/rakhemseku Website: http://www.jujumama.com JujuMama Love Academy is located at: https://jla.jujumama.com/?affcode=12691_hqk4yz_w Resources:    Rakhem’s … Continue reading →

65 :: Liquid Free Dating + Being a Feminine Weapon with Christina Weber

Episode Description Today’s episode features entrepreneur, dating industry disrupter and Feminine Weapon, Christina Weber. I learned about Christina through a friend who encouraged me to attend her annual Feminine Weapon event in Los Angeles on January 30th 2018. As we discuss men, dating, romance and sexuality in this episode, and our desire to bring men more deeply into these important conversations, Christina shares how she received a ton of backlash for this year’s Feminine Weapon Day focus, ‘For the Love of Men,’ from women in a popular Facebook group, and how she handled it. Tune in for a real conversation about liquid free dating, dispelling shame around dating and relating, bringing men into the conversation and being a Feminine Weapon on Episode 65 of Ignite Intimacy! Christina Weber – BIO Christina Weber is a powerful gift to the world, sharing her insights about business and strategy while still maintaining her feminine approach to life. Ever-evolving, Christina created Feminine Weapon Day as a way to amplify her beauty and power, not just for herself, but for women everywhere and humanity as a whole. When she is not focused on Feminine Weapon, she facilitates deep connections between men and women through her … Continue reading →